3 Life Lessons I’ve Learned As A Blogger

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I’ve been blogging for almost two years now, and it has been an amazing journey full of so many life lessons.  I’m constantly pushing myself to step it up.  And to be honest, I can’t think of a time that I’ve had to motivate myself this much!  It’s tough, but I know that the payoffs are going to be tremendous.

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Anyway, I decided to share with you three of the many lessons life lessons that I’ve already learned during this short amount of time.  They have been very instrumental in helping me to become a better blogger and better person.  And I know they will help you in accomplishing whatever goals you have set for yourself!

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1. Consistency Will Never Fail You. Persevere.

I’ll admit it. I am one of the most inconsistent people you will ever meet.  I’ve been this way all of my life, and I’ve always known it was a problem.  Growing up there were all of things that I wanted to do and be (a singer, a model, an actress, etc.), but because of my inconsistency and perhaps lack of confidence, I never followed through with any of those passions.  To be honest I always chose the easier route of education.

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Now, I’m a 30+ year old who has finally decided that I can no longer do what comes easy to me. I have to do what I’m passionate about. What am I passionate about?  Style. Motherhood. Inspiring others. This blog.  The inconsistency comes when things aren’t going my way, or when I feel like I’m working hard and not seeing any results.  Discouragement is not the best feeling.  However, it should not stop you from persevering.

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We all have goals.  And the truth of the matter is, if you give up every time things aren’t going your way, you will never accomplish those goals.  So, I’m learning to push through despite the fact that sometimes I will stumble.

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2. An Investment in Self Pays The Highest Dividends.

I think most successful people will tell you that investing in yourself is essential to your growth and achieving your goals.  If that means paying for some classes so that you can be more well-versed in your craft or buying that suit so that you look the part for that career that you’re trying to work in, then you must do it.  Many of us think that we know it all.  That’s just not true.  The world is changing constantly, so there is always more to learn.

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I have to note, though, that investing in yourself does not necessarily mean spending money. It can mean making sure your mind is right by taking some time to meditate, properly plan, or just read.  It’s about making sure that you have all that you need mentally, spiritually, and physically.  Investing in all of these areas will earn you returns that will last a lifetime.  But, most importantly, they will make your success that much more attainable and enjoyable!

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3. Rest If You Must, But Don’t Quit.

Blogging is not the hardest thing in the world physically.  But, it can be tough mentally and emotionally.  You’re constantly competing for the attention of people you barely even know.  Sometimes you question whether or not you’re good enough.  And you’re always trying to figure out how to crack the code that is social media.  It’s tiring sometimes.

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When I get to the point that I’m too wrapped up in all of those things that don’t align with my ultimate purpose, I will force myself to take a break AKA rest.  Now, resting does not mean that you’re giving up.  It means that you are restoring your energy so that you can continue to be your best self!  There is nothing wrong with resting, just don’t quit!

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Photography by Shots By Priiincesss

Hopefully, these lessons will be beneficial to you and your journey.  And of course, I hope you love my outfit!  I would love to know what life lessons you live by, so that we can all benefit from them.  Share them with me below!

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Daneisha

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Fall Vibes With My Favorite Summer Trousers

I must admit that it’s been hard to get into all of these “Fall vibes” that everyone is talking about, when it’s still 90 degrees outside on a typical day in Atlanta.  However, because of the Fall fashion trends that I’ve already seen everywhere, I’m getting a little excited about the new season.  I’m reading my favorite style blogs and watching my favorite style channels on YouTube in anticipation of what’s to come this season in fashion.  And of course, my online shopping carts are full of new booties, leopard print dresses, leather jackets, combat boots, camel jackets, etc.  I haven’t hit the “place order” button yet on any of the items in my cart because there’s just so much that I want, yet I have to be strategic about my purchases!  Anyway, while deciding what new Fall items I will be purchasing, I pulled out a few of my favorite pieces from last Fall and this Summer.  These olive/khaki trousers from ASOS were a hit this summer (see here), so I decided to create a cute Fall look with them.  Check it out below!!!

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Photography by Shots By Priiincesss

Just like the first time I wore these trousers, I felt super fabulous rocking them while shooting!  I love the fit of these pants, and the bottom hem hits at the perfect spot!  They’re probably one of my best purchases this Summer.  I paired them with these sleek booties that I purchased on sale last Fall from Steve Madden.  And I couldn’t resist the urge to throw on my belt bag from Zara.  It gives a fun and trendy touch to the look!

Are y’all eagerly anticipating this upcoming season or are you still holding on to every essence of Summer?  Let me know in the comments below!

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Daneisha

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An Affordable Way to Change Up Your Look

For most of my life and up until recently, my style has been very simple. My looks were mostly solid colors, and my accessories were minimal.  Nowadays, that has changed a little.  Even though I still keep my looks pretty simple, I like to add a little something extra to each look that I create. I think that as I continue to blog and discover different styles and trends, I’m more intrigued to step outside my box.  The easiest and most affordable way that I change up my look is through my accessories; Especially, my earrings.

As you can see below, I am having too much fun with statement accessories right now!!! I love all of the different shapes, colors, and sizes that I can play with to add more texture to my looks.  The great thing about all of the earrings that I buy is that they are no more than $15 a piece.  Some are less than $5.  My favorite places to purchase them from are Forever 21, Target, H&M, and ASOS!

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Photography by Shots By Priiincesss

So, it’s simple. If ever you feel like your outfit is a little boring or simple, just find an inexpensive pair of statement earrings. Watch you entire look go from “blah” to “yasss”!!!

I did a great post a few weeks ago on some of my recent earring purchases here.  I think you’ll love it.  Go check it out!  How do go about changing up your look when you want to try something new? Let me know in the comments below.

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Daneisha

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How to Discover Your Signature Look

The other day as I was shooting looks for Officially Chic, my photographer mentioned to me that I should have something in my look that serves as my signature, a part of my personal style that I am known for.  We talked about my sunglasses, my accessories, my hair, and my bold lippie as some of the things that I usually rock in all of my looks for the blog. These are some of the things I always get complimented on anytime I wear them. I agree with my photographer that I would make sure to take this into consideration when I’m putting my looks together in the future.

Our conversation also got me to thinking about you all. I wondered if you have discovered your signature style.  And do you know what it means to have a signature look.  I decided to discuss it a little today and give you a little advice on discovering your signature style.

The best way to get to your signature style is (1) determine what item or items looks the best on you, (2) what are you the most comfortable in, and (3) what do you get the most compliments on.  It’s really that simple.  For me, I love rocking a bold red, matte lippie.  I also love my short hair-do.  As far as clothing, I would say that I usually stick to pieces that accentuate my curves.  For the most part, I know what looks good on me and what doesn’t.  I try to avoid “what doesn’t”.

So my advice to you is to start with a single item that you love, and wear it constantly.  Eventually, that’s what you will become known for.  It could be a pair of hoop earrings, a certain type of skirt, a blazer jacket, or even a pair of kicks (sneakers).  Make it yours.  Once you do that, add interest to it with updated silhouettes or different colors.  Later, it will become your style signature!

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Photography by Shots By Priiincesss

So, my question to you is, do you have a signature look or thing about you that stands out when it comes to your personal style? Or are you still trying to figure it out?  If you need help, let me know in the comments below!  We can figure it out together!!!

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Daneisha

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A Timeless Essential for Every Woman’s Wardrobe: The Crisp White Shirt

Y’all know I love putting together a cute outfit! But, what I love even more is when what I wear somehow benefits someone else. So, I really appreciate the School of Dreams Campaign that Girl With Curves and LaFayette 148 New York are running. In 2007, LaFayette 148 New York founded the School of Dreams Foundation to provide education to the children in China free of charge, a project that nourishes the mind, body and spirit through early childhood education. Now through September 30th, Lafayette 148 New York will donate $10 up to $148k to the foundation. Want to join in?

Simply style a crisp white shirt of your choice and post your image on IG using #SchoolOfDreams, and the company will make a $10 donation on your behalf. This is not an ad for me, I’m just supporting the cause.

See how I styled my crisp white button down below!

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How do you make this iconic piece your own?  Let me know in the comments below!

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Daneisha

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Why You Should Take Yourself on a Date + Outfit Ideas

Whether you are a mother, childless, single, or married, I’m here to tell you that you need a break away from it all every once in a while.  I know I do.  We have so many responsibilities as adults and it can be overwhelming.  So, to combat that overwhelming feeling, I feel it’s necessary to take a break. And instead of waiting around for others (boyfriends, husbands, girlfriends, etc.), start taking yourself on a few solo dates.  I think it’s important to take yourself out every once in a while! There are so many things you may want to do, places you may want to visit, food you may want to try and concerts you want to go to. Don’t let the fact that others aren’t interested in doing these things stop you from doing all of that!

I’ve only gone on a few solo dates in the last few years.  One of them was in 2014 (lol), I had been studying for a payroll certification for months, and I’d finally taken the exam and passed it!  So, I decided that I wanted to celebrate by taking a looooonnng nap (hadn’t gotten any sleep while studying for that exam) and I also wanted to see one of the biggest movies that was out at that moment, “Gone Girl”.  Everyone else had either already seen it, or they just weren’t available to go.  I almost decided not to go, but at the last minute I changed my mind and decided to go by myself.  I purchased my ticket and went to one of those movie theaters that had the nice leather recliner seats.  Y’all, it was so relaxing.  I didn’t want to leave when the movie ended.  To be honest, I wasn’t at all embarrassed that I was alone.  It was one of the best movie experiences that I’ve ever had, for sure!  By the way, the movie was great!

I’ve also gone to a lounge/restaurant by myself as well.  That experience was different because I actually ended up being hit on a few times while I was there.  It was still a nice experience though.  The music was great and the food was good.

As a mom, I haven’t taken myself on any official dates yet, however, I do make sure to have my alone time.  One thing that I would love to do alone is take a vacation.  Now, that would be different.

My point is that you can enjoy yourself without having a whole crew with you.  And it’s important to have some alone time to recharge and just do things that YOU enjoy without depending on others.  When you take yourself on a date, you’re on your own schedule and you don’t have to wait until someone else is available to go with you.

If you’re going on a solo date or a date with your boo, you still have to look good right? So, below I’ve put together a few date night looks that will surely have you looking fly no matter where you’re going!

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What do you think? Have you gone to a concert, lounge, or even a trip ALONE? What are your thoughts? Let me know in the comments below!

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Daneisha

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Let’s Talk: Self-Confidence Then vs. Now

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I was tapped by one of my boss babes, Lauren Yellock from Illuminate Beauty, to talk about my experience with self-confidence growing up and how I deal with it now.  I was very excited to discuss this topic because I know that it’s something that we all dealt with growing up.

Self-confidence is a feeling of trust in one’s abilities, qualities, and judgment.  I think I speak for most when I say that there have been moments when I have not been so confident in myself or my ability to do certain things.  When I think back to my childhood and even my teenage years, there were certain areas in which I lacked confidence.  For example, I wasn’t able to make any important decisions on my own without getting my mom’s opinion until I was about 25.  It could have been something as important as deciding on a job or something as unimportant as how to style my hair.  For some reason, I felt that if I didn’t solicit her advice and follow her advice to the “T”, I would be punished by God and there would be bad consequences! I’m laughing out loud as I type this but it is so true.  I didn’t trust my ability to make important decisions.

At some point in my late twenties, I think it was around that time that I moved out on my own, I started to become more assertive and self-assured in my decisions. There is something about moving into your own place, have a steady job, and having to pay bills on your own that gives you an extra boost of confidence.  You have to be smarter and more analytical when you become a “real” adult.  There’s no “letting it slide” or calling your mom.

There was also some confidence issues with my looks growing up too.  I didn’t consider myself to be one of the pretty girls or the best dressed.  I didn’t come from money and I literally wore sweatsuits (in every color) to school every day of the week while in elementary school. But at the same time, it wasn’t something that I constantly thought about.  However, looking back I think it contributed to my awkward social skills.  That feeling of being awkward  had to do with me feeling like I wasn’t good enough or cool enough to be accepted.   I was and still am socially awkward.

Now, as an adult, I don’t really care to be accepted.  I love who I am and I love my body.  You only get one life and one body.  So, I do my best to really appreciate it all.  Also, I think becoming a mom really helped with my body confidence.  In the beginning I was really upset at how much my body had changed after having my son.  But, after recognizing how much my body went through to produce this amazing human being, I felt/feel like I have to show it (my body) all the love.  It’s not perfect, but it’s STRONG!!!

The one area that I have always been confident in is my intellect.  Growing up, I knew how smart I was. So I was confident in my ability to study, get my homework done, and pass tests ON MY OWN. I was always good at figuring things out.  So, school was basically a breeze for me (well, the education part of it).  In my current life and at my job, I can always rely on my ability to figure sh*t out!!!

As a blogger, I try to be transparent in the areas that I am confident in, as well as those areas that I’m not so confident.  When you’re able to be completely transparent and bare your soul to the world by showing your true self to others, that gives others permission to do the same. It allows you to relate to others as well.  And I’m totally here for that.

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So, tell me, how did you deal with self-confidence growing up and are you still dealing with those issues? Let me know in the comments below.

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Daneisha

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